UNEASY ATMOSPHERE

I like direct and simple relations with people, and dread complex, subtle, intricate relations–and above all CLAIMS.  One gives, and … More

MY BEST SELF

I know I’m not perfect and I’ve made horrendous mistakes.  There have been times when I’ve been mean and uncharitable.  … More

PEOPLE’S FAVORITE SUBJECT

Talk to someone about themselves and they will listen for hours (Dale Carnegie).  It’s true we all love to talk … More

DON’T BE AFRAID OF ENEMIES

Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you.  Be afraid of the friends who flatter you. (Dale Carnegie).  Enemies who … More

FEELING LEFT OUT

Humans are social creatures and as such need to belong to a group.  This is why one of the most … More

IT’S NOT A GAME

“. . . It’s not a game until both sides know they’re playing . . .”  Loreth Anne White, A Dark Lure

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

I never want to intentionally hurt someone’s feelings.  Sometimes people choose to get their feelings hurt when I write what … More

THE MYTH OF SELF-ESTEEM

I spent years helping myself overcome a life time of “low self-esteem”.  I also worked with a multitude of patients … More

ONE WAY RELATIONSHIPS

As I get older, I find I am less and less able to keep up my end of one-sided relationships.  … More

NOT A REQUEST

If “no” is not an option then it’s not a request no matter how nicely asked.  Sometimes a request is … More

INSIST

To insist often is in response to another person declining or saying “no” to something.  It can be felt as … More

EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

I have, for the most part, given up on relationships. I’ve decided I don’t “do” relationships very well.  I am … More