I like direct and simple relations with people, and dread complex, subtle, intricate relations–and above all CLAIMS. One gives, and … More
Tag: manipulation
MY BEST SELF
I know I’m not perfect and I’ve made horrendous mistakes. There have been times when I’ve been mean and uncharitable. … More
PEOPLE’S FAVORITE SUBJECT
Talk to someone about themselves and they will listen for hours (Dale Carnegie). It’s true we all love to talk … More
DON’T BE AFRAID OF ENEMIES
Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you. (Dale Carnegie). Enemies who … More
FEELING LEFT OUT
Humans are social creatures and as such need to belong to a group. This is why one of the most … More
IT’S NOT A GAME
“. . . It’s not a game until both sides know they’re playing . . .” Loreth Anne White, A Dark Lure
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
I never want to intentionally hurt someone’s feelings. Sometimes people choose to get their feelings hurt when I write what … More
THE MYTH OF SELF-ESTEEM
I spent years helping myself overcome a life time of “low self-esteem”. I also worked with a multitude of patients … More
ONE WAY RELATIONSHIPS
As I get older, I find I am less and less able to keep up my end of one-sided relationships. … More
NOT A REQUEST
If “no” is not an option then it’s not a request no matter how nicely asked. Sometimes a request is … More
INSIST
To insist often is in response to another person declining or saying “no” to something. It can be felt as … More
EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
I have, for the most part, given up on relationships. I’ve decided I don’t “do” relationships very well. I am … More