Many people make the mistake of believing we are only allowed to have positive or good feelings.  We are constantly told to not be angry, not to cry, and not to express negative emotions.  We are told “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”  The problem with this myth is that when we block or suppress negative feelings, the good ones are also blocked.  You see, we can’t pick and choose which emotions we block.  If we block some, we block them all.  The result of blocking emotions is the feeling of “dead inside” or emotionless.  Blocking emotions takes a great toll on our mental and physical health.  Emotions don’t ever actually go away if we don’t express them or feel what we feel.  Instead, emotions get lodged in various parts of our bodies and create physical symptoms.  We get headaches, muscle aches and pains, and become irritable or anxious.  We get stomachaches and can’t sleep.  As people, our emotions are part of being human, being real, and being alive.  Don’t fall for the lie that we are only supposed to feel happy and pleasant.  It’s unfortunate if others are uncomfortable with true, honest emotion.  We can still feel what we feel and be who we are.  We don’t have to hide our feelings from ourselves.

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