QUOTE ABOUT THE 3 BASICS
“We need food and shelter first, before we need anything else, because without those things we will die. Then we need people to love. Once we have people to love, then we can learn to love ourselves and start working toward the things we are good at, the things that make us happy.”
The basics of life are first. Without food, shelter, and clothing, pursuit personal goals and increasing emotional wellbeing is difficult, if not impossible. Many times we attempt to push others to aspire for greatness and self-improvement without taking into account whether their basic needs are met. In counseling, postponing self-improvement and self-actualization is necessary with practical problems present. Loss of job, health problems, financial problems, housing problems, and other such necessary needs must be addressed before lofty goals of issue resolution is logical. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, learned in graduate school, is still applicable today.
Once basic needs are met, we seek love and relationship. Humans do need other people for social, physical, spiritual, and emotional connection. While some of us do like alone time, even the most introverted loner needs some people some of the time. We need someone to share things with, spend time with, communicate with, and love. People are interdependent on each other and it’s true that, no man is an island.
Finally, when our basic needs met and we have some relationships in our lives, then we move to pursue happiness. Happiness is a feeling, a state of being, a mind set, or some other measure by which we feel contented and at peace. We want to accomplish meaning and feel we have lived our lives well–however we define that. Achieving our higher purpose or being our best self is happiness. It’s not what we have that makes us happy, it’s who we are, in the end, that matters most.
WHAT WE NEED FOR LOVE
WHAT WE NEED FOR HAPPINESS