Lose nothing for asking. (Dictionary of English Proverbs/Thomas Preston)  Why are we so afraid of being told “no”?  Why does it feel like personal rejection?  How many times have you heard someone say they aren’t asking “because they are just going to say no anyway”?  Hearing “no” should not be so devastating.  So what if someone says “no”?  There is no need to limit every possibility of hearing the word “no” thereby also eliminating any chance of the occasional “yes”.  I have one child (grown now) who never had a problem hearing “no” (or saying it).  She asked for every single thing she wanted and never missed a single beat when “no” was the answer.  I secretly admired her ability to do this even when she was very young because I could not do it at the time and even now have difficulty.  One thing is certain, if you don’t ask the answer is automatically “no”.  Do yourself a favor and expose yourself to the possibility of “no” as many times as you can.  It gets easier and easier.  Once you can hear “no” gracefully, you’ll be able to say “no” without too much difficulty as well.


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