The time to fix something is when it’s first broken, not when it’s shattered into so many pieces that there’s not enough glue in the world to put it back together again (Carolyn Brown).  The longer we wait to address problems in a relationship, the worse those problems get.  Over time we add more problems to the mix and eventually we reach a point of no return.  Have you ever had a disagreement with someone you care about?  Of course, we all have.  When one or both parties quickly move to repair the damage, the relationship is preserved and even strengthened.  There is something so comforting in having a relationship that weathers the storms.  When we are able to survive the relationship bumps-in-the-road we become more secure in the relationship.  It’s awesome to be able to relax, be yourself, and have confidence in another person’s ability to forgive or persevere regardless of bad moments.  On the other hand, there is an automatic understanding of when it’s too late to successfully repair a relationship if too much time has passed since the disagreement.   When months or even years go by there is an instinct about the quality of any relationship that takes so long to move past a disagreement.  Part of us realizes the relationship was false to being with and the foundation was sand.



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