I have found out there ain’t no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them (Mark Twain, Tom Sawyer Abroad).  Traveling, while pleasurable, does have stress involved.  Once stress is present, any minor irritation is magnified.  Traveling with people does seem to bring to the surface things we may not have paid much attention to before.  Being in close quarters with someone and spending increased amounts of time with them can certainly make or break a relationship.  Spending extended amounts of time in a vehicle, for example, can bring out the worst in people. Some people pick fights when they are bored.  We’ve probably all noticed how irksome children can be trapped in a car and inevitably fights erupt.  However, adults do the same thing on a different level and often it’s not as obvious.  Trips can bring us closer to those we like but can also push us further apart.  Being exposed to sides of people that are not as pleasant can often be the eye-opener that reveals to us part of someone’s personality that we realize are in conflict with our own values.  On the other hand, the small disputes among people on a long car trip don’t always result in permanent ruptures in a relationship.  Traveling together though can weaken relationships that may already lack a good, strong foundation.  Traveling can also strengthen those relationships that are built on solid principles rather than superficial attractions.


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