I know I’m not perfect and I’ve made horrendous mistakes. There have been times when I’ve been mean and uncharitable. I have a temper. My mouth gets the better of me. I can be selfish, arrogant, and disrespectful. I am not all I need or even want to be. I do, however, have good points as well. I am honest, moral, and hard-working. I am loyal and dependable. I have great empathy and compassion for others. While people (especially those that “love” me) never miss an opportunity to remind me of my faults, God, on the other hand, reminds me of my talents, gifts, skills, abilities, values, and positive traits. God brings to mind the good things I’ve done and when I got it right. Whether the good outweighs the bad remains to be seen. It’s a life long process of learning, growing, and improving. I admit when I am wrong and attempt to make amends. I don’t, however, let others use my mistakes, regrets, and failings to manipulate me or to tear me down. People who play on our love, emotions, and mistakes to down grade us are not in any way interested in our wellbeing. These individuals want something from us (usually money) and they use whatever tactics work. While I do have regrets, I don’t think any person has the right or authority to punish me. I do not accept a life sentence of being scapegoated, blamed, condemned, or ostracized for past mistakes. Each of us makes choices and some choices affect others. Other people make choices which affect me. None of us are in a position to judge or condemn another.