Success is getting what you want…Happiness is wanting what you get (Dale Carnegie).  How many times do we get what we want and then realize we still aren’t happy or satisfied.  The thrill of an acquisition loses it’s luster within days (sometimes hours) and we find ourselves looking around for the next purchase.  Some of us are bottomless pits of want.  We always have the next “I want” on our lips and it drives us until we get it.  Then, suddenly, another “I want” pops up and on and on it goes.  This is more obvious in children who beg and beg for that one special toy only to beg and beg for another special toy when they receive the first one they wanted so badly.  With adults, the expense increases as the wants grown-ups desire are usually more costly–a car, a house, an electronic, a trip, a piece of jewelry, a tool, and so-on.  We could take a year off from the “I wants” and instead spend the year enjoying what we already have.  Every time we find ourselves looking at or thinking about sometime we want, we could remind ourselves “I shall not want”.  Over time we begin to smother that unconscious drive to acquire for the sake of acquiring.  We can do with much less material possessions and have a better sense of peace.  While the main object of this article is material goods or expenses, there are people, too, who “acquire” people and relationships only to discard them for one “better” once they’ve secured the love and commitment from the other person.  We call these types of people “players” and it’s the same process as with people who have an insatiable desire for purchases.  People who trade people in for a “better” model, though, are sadly harder to reach.  Whether we collect things, people, or relationships however, if we are doing it compulsively and are never satisfied, it may be time to stop and think about the pattern and work on reining it in for our own good.  Ultimately, we will not be content or happy when we rely on external factors to accomplish happiness.  True peace and happiness come from within.  If we are never satisfied with what we have, who we are with, and where we are, then likely we are actually not satisfied with ourselves.



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