When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity (Dale Carnegie).  Sometimes we interact with others based on our own values and morals.  We automatically assume that if we are honest and humble then others are as well.  Often the worst mistakes in relationships are because we see the best in people (which is good) and ignore the bad (which sets us up for hurt).  People are not all bad or all good.  We all are a combination of both.  However, when interacting, it’s best not to forget about the bad and be more careful how we approach people and what we say.  It’s also important to be mindful of how we say things as well.  If we charge right in expecting the other person to receive what we say well (even if it’s moderately critical or unpleasant to hear) our interaction can backfire or escalate into something that is completely unhelpful and possibly harmful to our relationship.  Surely all people are not “bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity”.  On the other hand if we proceed as if they are, even when they are not, the interaction is likely to go more smoothly and be more productive.


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