I heard once there are three strategies attorney’s use when representing a client in court.  If the truth is on their client’s side they focus on the truth.  If the law is on their client’s side they focus on the law.  If neither the truth nor the law is on their client’s side they attack the witness.  I say this to give you encouragement if people are putting you down, belittling you, or are being outright abusive simply because you state your own opinion, feelings, or thoughts.

If someone has found it necessary to attack you personally (figuratively speaking) then you likely are doing something right, or have spoken the truth.  Take comfort in knowing you are probably on the correct path when this happens.  When speaking your mind, opinion, or point of view, there is no logical reason for it to be taken as a personal offense by someone else (to the point they find it necessary to discredit you).  If someone is offended then maybe there is more than an element of truth to what you’ve said.  Maybe you’ve hit too close to home and are being demonized so others won’t take you seriously.

In homes where child molestation or other immoral, unethical, or illegal acts are taking place, the perpetrator spends years, countless resources, and great personal effort planting seeds of doubt to undermine the character of victims or those who will support the victims.  This campaign of deception acts as an insurance policy against the time when the facts surface. By the time the truth actually comes out entire communities may have been brainwashed against the victim and other family members who stand up for the victim.  The perpetrator has succeeded in developing trust, friendships, and the support of very important people in the community.  The truth, therefore, will not be believed and the deceit planted over the years will hold strong.  You see this when perpetrators are portrayed as victims or solicit sympathy when victims step forward.

The more resistance or negative response you get, the more encouraged you can be in what you are saying or doing.  If you weren’t right, others would not feel threatened.  It’s only out of fear or vulnerability when disagreement turns abusive rather than respectful.  We can disagree with others respectfully when we have nothing to lose.  The truth is not threatening when you are truthful. 2018


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