You can’t talk yourself out of a problem you behaved your way into (Stephen Covey). I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been in bad relationships. One characteristic present in every one was the lack of promise-keeping involved. Words of apology and reparation were quick to come yet rarely (if ever) followed by action or fulfilment. The sad thing is how many times (and years) we spend in relationships that are fraught with false promises. Words are very cheap and no matter how wonderful those words are, if they are false then the result is the same as if the words were harsh. Any apology, if sincere, will be backed up with action–a change in behavior. Now, on the other hand, we, too, must back our words up with action. Many of us have a gift for using words and if not careful will perpetuate the same trap–trying to talk our way out of something without the effort making real changes in our behavior. If you are truly sorry for something you have done let your behavior show your apology. Words are not necessary at all.