While we are immersed in our own thoughts we cannot recognize the reality of other people’s needs, we do not see the other person at all as he is; all we see is a being who is or is not meeting our requirements.  For this reason most domestic dissension is a battle between ghosts.  Neither husband nor wife is loving, or hating the real other, only an illusion, a projection of his or her personal wishes or resentments.  (J. Neville Ward, THE USE OF PRAYING)

Reference:  THE ETERNAL VISION-THE ULTIMATE COLLECTION OF SPIRITUAL QUOTATIONS compiled by William Sykes 2003

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