What we CAN do is not the same as what we are WILLING to do. What matters is not what we are able to do but rather what we are willing to do.  There are many things we are capable of achieving although we are not willing to take the actual steps necessary to accomplish it.  In self-improvement, we often focus on what we CAN or SHOULD do rather than what we WANT to do bad enough to take action.  We may WANT to know a foreign language while at the same time not be WILLING to do the work, take the class or study to make it happen.  We may WANT to be in good physical shape yet are not WILLING to exercise.  That’s OK.  We are not in any way obligated to live up to our greatest potentials.  We are not required to do that which we are capable of doing.  If we are able to accomplish more yet, for our own reasons, decide it’s not worth the time or effort involved, whose choice is it really?  It’s actually within our rights to NOT achieve, to fall short and to have lower expectations for our selves.  This seems at odds with what we are often told or expected to believe.  It seems everywhere we look we are encouraged to fulfill our destinies or accomplish our greatest dreams.  Well, maybe we just want to be happy, at peace, content and enjoy our day to day lives.  Maybe we want to be satisfied with who we are in the moment and not always be on a perpetual quest for greatness.  Maybe we want to look our actual age as we grow older.  It’s possible we don’t really mind looking or being older and having gray hair.  Is being the best at something (even our best selves) what life is all about?  Do we have to make more, be more, do more or achieve more to be considered successful?  At what point can we say enough if enough and just be–just exist?  We have a right to fail, to be average or sub-average.  We have a right to decide to keep some bad habits, be less than we can be in a few areas and spend our valuable time doing what we are WILLING to do not what we are made to believe we are SUPPOSED to do.  Maybe  we personally don’t mind being out of shape if it means we can read our books more or spend our time playing computer games.  Perhaps we chose to be a little overweight if it means we can enjoy the lusciousness of dessert.  Surprisingly we may prefer comfort over fashion or beauty.  If our clothes don’t match very well because we  wanted to use our morning time drinking our coffee slower who cares?  Is life a competition even with ourselves?  What if we tried thinking more about what it is we really are willing to do and what we truly prefer spending our time and effort on?  What if we allow ourselves to be OK with our choices even when those choices fall short of what others think we can (or should) accomplish.  Wouldn’t it be freeing to allow our self some mistakes, imperfections and bad habits in the interest of peace of mind?  It really isn’t a contest and if being a B or C student frees our mind and body up to simply be happy and be our self then, by all means, let us strive for mediocrity!  Let someone else be “the best” while we just enjoy being! ( 2017)  I recommend: Rejecting Likeability

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