I have a terrible habit of looking on the bright side.  I like to encourage and point out areas of hope or the good that can come of a bad situation.  Some people take this as a personal challenge to emphasize all that is wrong in the world.  Others seem to be down right offended because I dare say something good exists or is half-way possible.  I mean, when I audaciously point out something positive or even say something hopeful some people immediately respond with “yes, but….” and name something negative.  It’s as if to say because there are, indeed, negative things that are true then there can not possibly be even one thing acknowledged for being good.  If 600 things are good and one thing is bad, some people use the one bad thing to disqualify the 600 good things.  I really don’t understand.  Why is it so important to negate the good in homage to the evil?  For example, when I say “oh, look at that beautiful bird” then another person says “you know they carry diseases” or “those are the birds that peck my tomatoes”.  Ok, so they carry diseases and peck your tomatoes–does that make their color less lovely?  What I see is a beautiful looking bird.  I notice there are people who cling to their problems, illnesses or sad things that have happened as if their very lives depend on it.  I do pity them.  In fact, it is exceedingly distressing to go through life bowing down to the negatives and turning away from the positives.  I’m not ignorant of the bad in life and have had some heart ache and sadness myself.  I could drag myself down very quickly in the quagmire of self-pity and depression–it would be easy to do.  I simply choose to cope by paying closer attention the what’s good and trying to focus more on that than the other.  I am not, in any way, discounting or invalidating someone else’s pain or suffering (or even my own).  It’s the existence of pain and suffering that makes me appreciate the good things in life even more.  If I had not seen ugly, I would not notice the beautiful.  2/25/17 webbwisdom.com.  For more information see:  Cognitive Distortions

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