While being open, authentic and transparent is generally a good thing, it’s also important to be mindful of over-sharing.  Sometimes, without realizing it, we may disclose too much personal information and inadvertently give someone the very tool they need to hurt us with.  Another way we over share is by providing more information than is needed when answering a question.  Because I am trustworthy, do not set out to intentionally harm people and do not use people’s weaknesses against them–I mistakenly believed everyone would treat me in kind.  I learned the hard way that it is simply not true.  There are people who are not trustworthy, do harm people on purpose and take people’s kindness for weakness.  While I don’t want to be a completely isolated and closed individual, I have become more cautious of what I disclose and to whom I disclose it.  Something as simple as a preference, like or dislike can be turned into a means to undermine.  When I am asked a question, I answer as simply and succinctly as I can–only sharing the minimal necessary when possible.  The more detail I am tempted to share, the more careful I want to be.  Personal information is equal to the value of our physical self.  Giving someone personal and private information is the same as sharing a part of my body.  Just as we are careful of who we share our bodies with, we also need to be careful who we share our emotional self with.  I could be wrong but this is how I have found it to be in my life.  I am not going to give a piece of myself to just anyone at any old time.  You may also enjoy:  True friends don’t have to tell each other everything


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