Actions really do speak louder than words. Promises are meaningless if behaviors don’t fulfil them. The most over-used, deceptive and abusive words can sometimes be “I love you”. When “love” is used to justify hurt, pain and abuse then it’s probably not love. In many (if not most) cases of disagreement words are used to solve the issue rather than actions. This is why relationships fail a good bit of the time. We can use words to solve a disagreement and can make people say most anything we want them to say. How many times have you said “I’m sorry” when you really weren’t just to end an argument? How many times have you said “thank you” or “I love you” because it was what was expected at the time? How many times have you made a promise you were not able or willing to keep just to end a fight? We can force people to agree or to at least say they agree with us thereby getting our way on the surface. For a relationship to really be strong and grow we could move past words alone and let our actions show our true feelings. We can show love, apology and intent much better than we can speak them. If words don’t match behaviors then behaviors are the truth–the reality. I can say “I love you” ten thousand times a day but if my actions say otherwise then you probably will never feel loved by me. DW 1/2/17.