There is a difference between God’s perfect will and God’s permissive will. It’s important to understand the difference so you can make an informed decision about what you want for your life. While God will allow us things we ask for, it does not mean God is in favor or agrees with our choices. Humans have free-will which includes choice. God does, sometimes, answer our prayers by giving us what we ask for and ultimately it does not work out well for us. Then we blame God for giving us what we asked for. This is why it’s important to decide if you want what you want regardless of God’s perfect will or if you’d rather choose to submit to God’s perfect will and seek that instead. We do have a choice. We are able to decide what parameters of behavior and personal choice we accept and what we reject. God told Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree of knowledge in the Garden of Eden while making it possible for them to eat the fruit if they chose to. God could have put a barrier around the tree of knowledge that prevented access. God, instead gave them the ability to choose–did they want to take advantage of God’s permissive will and do things their way or did they want to submit their will to the perfect will of God? In our own life, we can do things our way and God will allow it much of the time (God’s sovereign will is deferred for another discussion). However, the best possible outcome for us (in this life and the next) is to do things God’s way. We won’t, however, have the best possible outcome while at the same time ignoring God’s perfect will. Make choices and decide for yourself if that’s what you want to do. That’s God’s plan (for humans to have decision making authority over their own lives). However, also understand you are responsible for the outcome and consequences of your choices and there may be times God allows something which ends up badly. This is not to say it’s God’s will for bad things to happen to you. It is to say that God respects your ability to choose.