Avoiding a feeling, topic or situation that is inevitable only makes it worse to me. I like to get things over with if there is a specific situation I know I have to face. While facing things head on is not pleasant or comfortable it is not as bad as when I let things go on too long and then it’s really bad. For example, when someone says or does something that bothers me I may let it go and not admit even to myself that I am bothered. This could go on for years. Eventually I do address it but since I let it go on so long then it ends up being a blow-up or I am completely overboard with it. Feelings get hurt. Bridges are burned. I try not to let things go on too long like this but the very nature of avoidance is that sometimes (often) I don’t even realize I’m doing it–until it’s too late. My problem is that I don’t ever want to think I don’t like a person or that something is a big deal to me. It’s like I tell myself I’m not supposed to have negative feelings of any kind. It never ends well when I deny my negative feelings. Like I said, I’m working on it. One thing that helps is to write (which I do). Thanks for listening!