I hate drawing attention to myself.  I do not like to be noticed.  It makes me uncomfortable.  I prefer to blend into the background.  I like working behind the scenes.  I feel threatened by too much unwanted attention–any at all is too much if it’s unwanted.  I especially pull back when someone does not take my “no” for an answer.  When someone tries to talk me into something–even if it’s simple like tasting a piece of cake–I feel harassed.  Alarms go off when I feel pressured to do something I’ve said “no” to.  How many times do I have to say “no”?  Sometimes as many as 7.  After that many times saying “no” the other person inevitably acts offended.  I’m really the one offended.  I’m too old to have to deal with peer pressure–really.

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