One of the things that bothers me the most as a social worker is when people cling to negativity and feeling bad like their very life depends on it.  I’m not talking about the negatively associated with human suffering that people struggle with.  I’m not talking about being with someone in intense grief over a recent loss.  I’m not talking about the very real hurt and pain people endure and are trying as best they can to cope or change things for the better.  I’m not talking about people who are addicted and keep going back to the addiction over and over again.  I’m talking about the people who seem to thrive on self-pity and adamantly refuse to acknowledge obvious and factual positives in their life.  These are the people who seem to think there is “poor me” contest and they are determined to win even if they have to keep themselves in the victim role to make sure they can elicit pity from others at all times.  Sometimes it seems people are determined to be unhappy and miserable and any sign of possible good in their life is strongly resisted and denied.  I try to be a positive person without being in complete denial that, yes, there are bad things in life and, yes, people are subjected to some pretty horrific circumstances.  I just find it hard to believe that there is nothing to be thankful for.  There is always something to be thankful for.  Admitting I am thankful for something does not in any way mean that there are also not things I’m hurting over.  I can hurt and be thankful too.  I don’t have to choose between being wounded and being thankful.  I can be sad while at the same time be thankful.  I can be mad and still be thankful.  I can have some bad memories and still be thankful.   That’s all I’m trying to say.

Nothing to be thankful for

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